The Brainy Girl and the Political Marriage

Arnoldandmariaoctober3 From Rachel Vogel

It took me a while to acknowledge that I always root for political wives largely because I see so much of myself in them.  They’re an attractive reflection of the brainy girl.  She gets the guy and she gets the Governor’s mansion all while looking fabulous in a pair of Louboutin heels.  As flattering as the image is, I can’t ignore that it’s just a phony façade designed to build power and prominence for the pair.  It has nothing to do with me and my insecurities.  And I won’t indulge it anymore.  Women who marry and tolerate cheating men in exchange for power and fame: from here on out, you’re on your own.  I will not carry your flag as a brave, courageous woman; I will not watch with pride as you manage a stiff-upper-lipped appearance on Oprah; and I sure as hell will not be purchasing your memoirs.  I can’t indulge this bullshit anymore.

(Thanks to Helaine Olen)

4 thoughts on “The Brainy Girl and the Political Marriage

  1. Wait, what? That’s the fairy tale of the geeky girl? To marry a politician? Since when, for all geeky girls?
    Speak for yourself, kemosabe.
    My dreams were of going to accept the nobel prize. Husbands were optional.

  2. I think that these marriages operate along the lines of “the rich are different”. Not so much that it is the wealth that is a game changer but a certain combination of wealth, celebrity, power, entitlement, etc. I don’t know if they have the same level of expectation of monogamy or fidelity that we plebes may have.
    I would suspect that the wives (and perhaps husbands too) look the other way as long as each person is discrete and provides no embarrassment.
    I have some sympathy for her and definitely for their children but I do find it hard to believe that this all came as a complete surprise to her. Or at least that the extent of the behaviour came as a complete surprise (the son may have been a surprise).

  3. It’s a safe guess that Rachel Vogel means “until the next Democratic political wife comes along.” I’m highly confident she isn’t going to refuse to buy Hillary Clinton’s memoirs.

  4. I’m with lmc. Who the hell wants to marry a politician? That’s like saying you want to be in a long distance relationship with a guy who is most definitely a serial philanderer and whose career will probably disrupt yours. Also, it’s an admission that at some point in your life, you want to be publicly humiliated. Nowadays, women who want political power can run for office themselves, they don’t have to live vicariously through their husband’s careers. I wouldn’t turn down a patron, however…

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