Call me old fashioned, but I think that if you are having an affair with the contractor, the proper way to deal with it is to be discreet, but joyful. I'm thinking Mrs. Robinson. Have a smoke and scotch and a romp in the hay. Sandra Tsing Loh takes another path. She goes for open and bitter. She breaks up her marriage and then writes a magazine article about why people weren't really meant to be married. Hello! Creditability problems here!
Loh explains that she had an affair, which ended their marriage. However, people weren't really meant to be married for so long. Her kids wouldn't really miss having both parents at home anyway. Loh is really an explorer personality type. Her husband and her friends' husbands weren't so great in the sack. And the husbands are kind of girlie in the way they help out around the house. Why should a marriage be work? She fishes around for any explanation that will save her.
This article is an extended rationalization for why Loh wrecked her marriage. Loh comes off as angry, mean, and desperate. I find it astounding that the Atlantic published it.