Intellectually Open for Love

Sunday’s Modern Love column is cool. The author recreated a study by Arthur Aron and fell in love.

“In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.” They also have to gaze into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

The full list of questions are here. The questions are good. In fact, we had to answer many of those questions in our pre-cana class before we got married. I feel like there should be an app for that.

I love the concept that love is found through intellectual intimacy. A willingness to share information.