Matt Miller says that his wife had to opt out of a high staked profession after she had kids.

If the most interesting and powerful jobs are too consuming, Jody says, then why don’t we re-engineer these jobs – and the firms and the culture that sustain them – to make possible the blend of love and work that everyone knows is the true gauge of “success”? As scholars have asked, why should we be the only elites in human history that don’t set things up to get what we want?

Most professional work is antithetical to family life.

Today talented people live in fear of sounding anything less than 24/7. Tell your boss you have to deal with a drinking problem and you’ll be fine; say you want more time with your family and you’re on the endangered species list. As a result, my wife says, we’re being led by a class of people who made choices (because there was no alternative) that are alien to what most of us want.

Miller calls for men and women worked to demand a more sane worklife.

It’s time workaholic males took up this cause, because top jobs will never change unless we do. Jody even has an incentive plan. In Aristophanes’ play “Lysistrata,” the women withhold their charms until the men agree to stop making war.

Honey, I’m withholding “my charms,” unless you get home before 7:00 tonight.