I completely loved this article about raising kids who don't fit neatly into the boy-girl dicotomy. My kids appear to be solidly boy, but Ian doesn't fit neatly into the normal kid category, so I can totally relate to the struggles that the parents in the article faced. 

Jonah has one or two friends that aren't typical boys in their interests or their mannerisms. They might become gay, but they might not. Jonah was never aware of their differences until recently, when other kids began making the horrible slurs and whispers about gay kids. We had the talk about being tolerant of differences and Jonah gets it totally, because he has a brother who is different. 

There have been many outraged editorials about the Boy Scout's intolerance of homosexuality, but there are quite a few gender-differences among his fellow scouts. That's where the non-sporty kids go. It's also where the kids with ADHD and spectrum kids are hiding. There really is a gap between political rhetoric about the scouts and the reality.