How Late Should A Teenager Sleep in the Summer?

Okay, I have parenting questions for the Apt. 11d Peanut Gallery.

School ended last Thursday, and I’m losing my mind already. Jonah, who is now 16, would like to sleep until 2. Ian, Steve, and I are up at 6:30.

There are practical reasons for losing my mind about this eight-hour time difference. It makes group family activities difficult. It means that nobody is eating meals at the same time, and thus, the sink is perpetually gross.

And there are more emotional reasons for losing my mind. I’m working my ass off, and the punk kid is sleeping! Arg!

Should we have a compromise hour for waking, like 9 or 10? Should I let him sleep until 2? Should I enlist him in a military academy?

To Break the Glass Ceiling, You Need a SAHD

For women to make it to the top of their careers, Anne-Marie Slaughter  says that they need a Stay-At-Home-Dad or at least a husband with a flexible job. And women need to trust men to do a good job.

It’s tough managing two high-powered careers, plus properly caring for the off spring and keeping the house from falling down. We all know that. The solutions are:

A) Hire a lot of people to help out. Downside — Therapy for the children who have no relationship with either parent.

B) Mom stays home. Downside — Mom out of the workforce. Sometimes a little bitter. Financial dependence.

Slaughter suggests option C) Dad stays home. Magically, no downside.  Continue reading

Be Nice at Work

Christine Porath has an interesting article in the New York Times about workplace rudeness. She thinks that incivility at work contributed to her father’s death. She points to studies that show that incivility causes workplace errors and undermines creativity.

Examples of workplace rudeness include: • Interrupts people, • Is judgmental of those who are different, • Pays little attention to or shows little interest in others’ opinions, • Takes the best and leaves the worst tasks for others, • Fails to pass along necessary information, • Neglects saying please or thank you, • Talks down to people, • Takes too much credit for things, • Swears, • Puts others down.

When Steve left academia and moved to the corporate world, he thought that there was less rudeness in the corporate world, because social behavior had more rules and interactions with associates were more public. There wasn’t the corporate equivalent of “this is the stupidest thing I ever read” comments at an academic conference. After a while, Steve found that there was rudeness in the corporate world, too. It was just subtler.

And then there are internet comments. (Not here, of course.) This year, I had to block a few people on Twitter, because my articles enraged them so much that they felt it was necessary to send me emojis of faces with tongues sticking out. Niceness is such a far away goal for the online writer. I would settle for happy emojis.

Happy Birthday, Mon Frere!

DSC_0055Jonah turned 16 earlier this month. After the cake, we gave him some gifts. He picked out long board equipment the week before from an online store. That skating gear was his main present, along with some clothes. When the boxes arrived, I wrapped them up without looking inside. Turns out one box contained SAT prep books for his up-coming Princeton Review summer class. Well, he was surprised!


Open Thread About Race

The news cycle for the past six months has been about race. Ferguson. Baltimore. Dolezal. Charleston. I am not the person who should be weighing in on these matters, though I have read tons of commentary. I’m not even sure if “race” is the only lens for these events. Charleston may be more about access to fire arms, than race.

Wendy requested an open thread.